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SOS BOOK Chapter 64: Achieving success in personal transformation.



CHOOSE THE BEST STRATEGIES TO SUCCEED.

Having a strategy can help us to succeed at anything, be it in business, sport, art, or self-development. A good strategy is required for complex tasks such as personal transformation.


But some strategies which apply to business or sports may NOT optimally support personal transformation. So, no matter how experienced we are in business techniques or strategic planning, we will be in unexplored territory. How do the strategies differ?


PERSONAL SUCCESS IS MORE SUBJECTIVE.

The measurement of success in personal development is quite different from business or sport. The markers of success are different. The milestones are quite subjective. The goals for personal development are less materialistic. It's not about personal fame, fortune or notoriety. Instead, it's more about how we can benefit others, or be of service.

…Can you see how the goals of transformation are different?


PERSONAL GROWTH IS NOT COMPETITIVE.

There is another big difference in personal transformation as compared to success in other fields. We compete only with ourself and not against others. We overcome inner barriers and hurdles, not external ones. And we don't promote ourselves as being ‘better than’ or more superior.


Most milestones of personal growth are internal and specific to each individual. That’s because the transformation occurs in the hidden inner world of mind & thought. So, it's there we must look for our milestones of personal success. This makes it very subjective & personal.


This internal change becomes our reward and our greatest treasure! That’s where the true measure of self-transformation will be found! For example, we learn to treasure simply ‘feeling good’ or having a high vibe. We can enjoy lasting happiness & joy, purely for its own sake! Happiness is no longer dependent on external circumstances or materialistic concerns.


REFINE & TRUST YOUR INNER JUDGEMENT.

Other people might not easily see your inner growth or agree with it. They might not even view your life changes as being productive at all! So, we learn to trust our own inner judgement and not the perspectives of others.


In business, sports & self-development, having a coach can help considerably. But for personal transformation, having a guru or mentor is not as essential. In some situations, this can even be detrimental. That’s because we need to take full responsibility for every decision we make.

…Do you rely too much on a coach or guru?


DON’T OVERLY RELY ON GURUS FOR GUIDANCE.

Others cannot make decisions on our behalf. We need to stay autonomous and independent. Relying on an external mentor or guru can eventually become a hindrance. We must exert our sovereign nature and learn from our own mistakes!


There are many introductory courses and much information online. That can provide initial guidance in personal growth. But we must use discernment and intuitive guidance to select what really feels right for us.


LEARN TO TUNE IN & LISTEN TO INNER GUIDANCE.

We already have, deep within ourselves, all the guidance we really need. This might seem surprising, but we can empower our own personal transformation. We recognize beneficial strategies that resonate with us. And we make decisions based on our inner knowing. We can find our own way!

…Are you relying more on your inner resources?


BEING RECEPTIVE & POSITIVE IS IMPORTANT!

A positive attitude is important for any endeavor, especially personal development. This includes having an open or receptive attitude. A resilient attitude will help us achieve our goal by not letting obstacles stop us. An optimistic or positive attitude also helps maintain a positive vibration. When we employ this positive mindset, much of the hard work is done for us without much effort.


But having the right attitude alone is not quite enough. We then need to take some positive action! This comes more easily and naturally with the right mindset. The internal ‘action’ done inside our mind is just as important as external action. In personal transformation this means becoming more aware of our thinking. We choose which thoughts we empower and thus modify our line of thought.

…Are you maintaining a positive attitude and high vibe?


REASSESS FROM A NEUTRAL PERSPECTIVE.

We make the best choices from a neutral and unattached perspective. We direct the action by choosing what we give our attention to. This is how we modify our thinking, our behavior and our life.


We can overcome old habits by assessing every decision anew. We fine tune our decisions by tuning into our emotions & our inner guidance. We further unlock our potential by tapping into this hidden capacity. This process is already known by elite athletes and top performers in any field. That’s why they are so successful!

…Do you better understand what the secret to success is?


FOCUS ON FORGIVENESS, GRATITUDE & SERVICE.

Our inner transformation will encompass forgiveness, gratitude & service. We give our abilities & talents as a service to others. Giving what brings us passion & purpose does not feel like hard work. Instead, it becomes a joy to give this way. It also adds to our sense of fulfilment.


We learn to forgive others, and ourselves as well! This eliminates the resentment or bitterness we would otherwise carry long term. It helps clear our emotional baggage and helps us to heal within!


Being grateful helps complete our healing process. Our gratitude then expands to all our life experiences. Even to the painful lessons we’ve had! We have experienced and learnt so much. Even if we don't appreciate that yet.

…Are you ready to forgive and be more grateful?


OUR GIVING FLOWS FROM GRATITUDE & PURPOSE.

Our giving is done in voluntary service as a gift to others. This might seem contrary to most business practices, except for ‘not for profit’ or philanthropic ventures. However, the giving of our talent or service to others, is not done out of pity or even charity. Our talent is given freely because it is an integral part of our life purpose. It gives us satisfaction, contentment and joy to do this!

…Are you starting to share your gifts with others?


IMAGINE LIVING THESE STRATEGIES.

In the next few chapters, we outline various transformational strategies to consider. As you read these, contemplate how you would live in that way. How could you incorporate these strategies into your life?


Don't get overwhelmed by all the possible strategies that we will offer you. Consider starting with just one strategy, then add others when you are ready. It’s your choice. This can help us succeed in our inner quest. It’s all part of the challenge & the thrill!


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