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Are there “magic” words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls? Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call. Cool huh? I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from the over 35,000 subscribers just like you that are trying to put their relationship back together.

Ok, so the question is “how do I get my ex back, to return my phone call or text message?” This can be done, but be careful, this is just the begining of a plan, and not a complete strategy. This will get your ex to return a call, but not get her/him back to you (just yet). If you do this without a plan, you can damage your relationship instead of helping it. This is about building a great relationship with your ex once you get back.

Let’s start whit What NOT to Say. These are the usual mistakes people make, so don’t fall for them. Before we get into the actual words, let’s go over what message almost NEVER works. and worse, Puts you in an AWFUL ‘psychological’ position.These usually fall into 2 categories.

Pleading - You call your ex and say something like “Hello, please call me, I’ve been calling you all day and I really need to talk to you”. As you may see, this is one call that is going to be unanswered. It will get the calling part into desperate state and only separete you more from your ex. You don’t use pity to get your ex back.

The Emergency. “Hello, I am calling you because I have an emergency, please call me as soon as possible.” Your ex can catch this fake call a mile away. What does this say about you? Only that you are desperate enough to lie, and this is clearly not going to help you.

These common approaches simply don’t work, or work opossed to what you want. If you really want your ex attention, there are methods much more effective. Let’s review a simple one.

How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are Curiosity and Self Interest. And here’s the BIG SECRET! When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work “magic” So, Let’s look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.

To start getting your ex back, make a call and say “Hi, just wanted to say that I owe you for what you did for me. I would like to tell you personally, so call me whenever you can”. Curiosity and Self interest in one! Nobody, certainly not your ex, can resist this call. Because you are sending a positive message, you wil get your ex to return your call.

Now, prepare mentally for what you are going to say. What did your ex did right for you? Maybe it was some advice or a positive criticism that helped you. Maybe it was when you needed to talk with someone and she/he was there for you. Work on this so you can tell your ex about it. Just remember that you will get a call back and maybe a date, but this is just the beginning of getting your ex back. You need a plan.

If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly. Okay? What I am saying is: What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call. Using this simple technique, you will have your ex calling you back, but you have to do more to get her/him back for real.